To Have and To Hold

I’ve been thinking and stewing about this for a long time now and trying to formulate what I wanted to say so it would be just so and get the right bang for the buck (so to speak) but all this thinking hasn’t yet written anything. Best to just come on out and do the writing so here it is.

Could someone please explain to me why letting gays and lesbians legally marry is such a horrific thing? As best as I understand the issue it is either because God thinks homosexuality is an abomination and we must not suffer those who practice it to have freedoms or rights or somehow boy marrying boy or girl marrying girl threatens the sanctity of boy/girl marriage. Have I got the right of it?

Well, all you god fearing homo haters I have good news for you! Take a look:

Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances.

Rejoice! The very laws of the land say that you don’t have to marry these sinners in your church if you don’t want to. Whooo! Go and party! The U.S. Constitution has your back (amen and hallelujah brothers and sisters). By the way, that little above snibbit is from the First Amendment to the Constitution in case you were wondering. It’s also part of the Bill of Rights � your government lesson for today. In black and white, the constitution gives you every right to deny homosexuals the privilege of holy matrimony within the hallowed halls of your church.

Ummm, but yeah. It does sort of imply the whole “in your church” which in turn implies that there is an “out of your church” as well so while it backs your freedom of religious expression, it also says (in black and white) that “[c]ongress shall make no laws respecting an establishment of religion”. In essence, the U.S. isn’t going to recognize any one particular religious law as a law that will pertain to the U.S. as a whole. God really doesn’t have a say when it comes to marrying homosexuals in a legal manner by an officiant of the United States so that whole argument doesn’t have a very firm leg to stand on.

By the way, while I was looking through the Constitution and the Ammendments, I found something on religion and law (in the very first ammendment no less) but I didn’t find anything on sexual orientation and the law. Just thought you might like to know that.

Lets talk the “Sanctity of Marriage” and how gays and lesbians threaten the very foundation of this ideal shall we? Remember to leave out the God ticket because while the holy guy may be invited, he’s really got no legal grounds for objection. Not that I can imagine a God who would object to two people who love each other vowing to be there for each other until death do them part but some people’s deities, you know? ANYWAY, so this whole downfall of “Sanctity of Marriage” bit. Explain that to me. I’ll admit I’m fairly new to this whole marriage thing but I can’t see how allowing Simon and Leonard to be married threatens the vow that TheMan and I pledged. I don’t expect that TheMan, upon hearing that Simon and Leonard have been granted all the rights and privileges of a hetero married couple, would suddenly up and go find him a Harry or a Michael to hook up with. I know *I* certainly don’t feel the overwhelming urge to go get hitched to an Ursula or a Kimberly just on account so I’m not seeing where the Sanctity of Marriage is threatened at all.

You do know that you can’t “catch” homosexuality like you can a cold right? So it’s not like letting gays and lesbians marry is going to cause a whole bunch of hetero people to suddenly up and decide that they are now homosexual. Well, it may a few but I have a sneaking suspicion those few were really homosexual all the time and just afraid to show it. I don’t know why…we are just amazingly tolerant to other lifestyle choices here in America. Oh wait, was that my outer voice?

Is there really a good argument for banning the rights of legal marriage for gays and lesbians other than “I don’t like them so lets pass laws to keep them under heel”? I’d really love to hear a rational explanation from the pro banners as to why they support this movement. No really, convince me that gays and lesbians are a threat. Make me see why I should vote with you and don’t mention God and don’t hide behind how homosexuals “dilute” the institution that is marriage. I bet I can give you two examples of hetero unions that threaten the “Sanctity of Marriage” for every one homosexual example you have. Let’s face it, us hetero’s haven’t really been doing much to uphold our precious “Sanctity of Marriage” so why get in a flap about it now?

Really, all this yapping isn’t much but venting anyhow. You bunched panties fundamentalists are sitting there thinking I’m some sort of bleeding liberal putz and you bleeding liberal putzes are all “Yeah, right on…down with the bunched undie fundies (oooo, I LIKE that)” or whatever it is you say and in the end I haven’t said anything that anyone else hasn’t. Personally, I can’t see any difference between heterosexuals and homosexuals in terms of willing commitment so let them marry already. Some gay and lesbian couples put many hetero couples to shame with their devotion to each other so why not let them have the opportunity to be allowed to legally marry? Why shouldn’t a lesbian or gay couple have access to the same rights that a hetero couple does? That’s one of the basic American philosophies:

1. All persons born or naturalized in the United States, and subject to the jurisdiction thereof, are citizens of the United States and of the State wherein they reside. No State shall make or enforce any law which shall abridge the privileges or immunities of citizens of the United States; nor shall any State deprive any person of life, liberty, or property, without due process of law; nor deny to any person within its jurisdiction the equal protection of the laws.

Hello, Constitution again (14th Amendment). Like it or not, homosexuals are citizens and they do get, under law, the rights of citizens of the United States. I don’t care how much you hate them, they have rights too. I also want to ask of the people who are pro banning of gay marriages, if you win, what next? Where do you want to go with this? Are there any other rights and privileges that need to be nixed? More importantly, where is this going to go?

You better be prepared for that question too because while you may hate and despise homosexuals and you may think this is a victory for you, what you have really done is set a precedent. You have allowed a group of U.S. citizens to be denied a right of freedom and while you may believe that homosexuals don’t deserve the right to marry, once you curtail any group it becomes that much easier to curtail the next group. Maybe you dislike Moslems as well? Why not deny them the right to marry? Maybe next it’s Jews or Native Americans or people who wear purple on Tuesday.

The first step is the hardest but every successive step becomes easier and easier and one day you may find that it’s your group who doesn’t fit. Won’t that be a surprise eh? You’ll wonder where America went wrong that it can easily deny you and yours and it probably wont even occur to you that you started it all way back when you decided to restrict the freedoms of a particular set of citizens.


Last Year at the booniverse: I, in my usual spelling mode, typed in Belmont Steaks to find the date of the race rather than Belmont Stakes and do you know what popped up? A restaurant! Is that where the 13th-15th place horses go?

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